I have a coaching client who is struggling with a very strong paradigm, to the point that she’s about ready to give up.  She has a very strong want for a specific thing, but has a tough time diverting attention away from the “what is” – the current results, so that she can invest her energy into the “what is becoming” – the manifestation of her strong desire.

This person very well understands the Law of Attraction.  She is very successful at manifesting the things she needs in terms of money, things, or circumstances.  Just not this one thing that she really wants.  She also understands the concept that her want can be manifested regardless of circumstances – which it can.  Both of these things play into her paradigm though – because she’s good at manifesting, and she understands the “soup of possibilities,” she doesn’t get why it isn’t happening for this one thing.

I believe the challenge here is that there’s too much energy being spent on the lack of manifestation.  Whenever she thinks about this thing, she goes into a spiral of why isn’t it happening, what is she doing wrong, what’s the matter with her, and so forth.

But she keeps doing the same things to try to make it happen. She’s so focused on and so emotionally invested in the want that it doesn’t give her the ability to step back and allow her imagination to present different ways that it could happen for her. She’s not able to see the hints that Spirit is giving her.

So, I believe what needs to happen is that she needs to let it go.  Please understand, this is NOT the same as giving up.  It just means letting go of the way it will happen.  Letting go of trying to force it to happen. Letting go of the negative emotions related to the lack of manifestation of the want.  Letting go means remaining open to the possibility, while at the same time LETTING it happen rather than diving into the emotional cesspool when it doesn’t.

Letting go allows the mind to calm, so that it is receptive to “the still, quiet voice.” Letting go allows the mind to really think, rather than reacting. This is illustrated beautifully in the “Autobiography In 5 Chapters” by Portia Nelson

Grabbing for something has the energy of lack, and will manifest lack.  It’s like grabbing at a cat – the cat will run away.  Instead, take on the calm, inviting energy, and the cat will come to you.  Through patient persistence, the cat will gradually learn to trust.

All this is NOT to say that you shouldn’t be emotionally involved in your goals.  It’s just to say that if your emotional involvement results in negative emotions, it is time to let go, to step back, and release the outcome to higher power.