I was watching a video of Lisa Nichols this morning, where she was talking about her willingness to “completely die to any form of ‘me’ that I had been so that I can birth the woman that I was becoming.”  It reminded me of someone in my past who had said “I can’t change, because then I wouldn’t be me.”  I was so mystified by this attitude.  For me it was like having a broken leg, and saying “I can’t heal my leg, because then I wouldn’t be me.”  The “I am” that I am is my spiritual self, which is the same regardless of the changes I make through life.  In fact, the “I am” that *I AM* is all about growth and increase – which MUST happen through change.  I cannot become more than I am without change.

While discussing this with Ann, and playing off the broken leg analogy, she commented on her experience working with EFT of some people hanging on to past hurts, like a knee injury from “being tackled by so-and-so back in high school.”  The injury becomes part of “their story.”  I realized that this is a form of unforgiveness.  In other words, they had never forgiven the person for tackling them, or they had never forgiven themselves for being tackled, or forgiven whatever for the injury.  They were hanging on to that hurt rather than letting it go – or turning it into a different type of story rather than a story of being hurt.  The lingering injury is a “story” about being hurt.

That’s what forgiveness is all about – releasing the “story about being hurt.”

The Course In Miracles says “All dis-ease is the result of unforgiveness.”

M. Scott Peck MD described a situation where he realized that his competitiveness – his “need to win” – was damaging his relationship with his son, because he couldn’t allow his son to win.  As he described it, he “killed” that part of himself.  And then commented on his lack of grief for having killed it.

Today is a good day to kill the part of myself that disables my growth.  How about you?